Dealing with People - Four Categories of People

Romans 12:18 - If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

The best way to deal with people is by understanding their role in your life. Believe it or not, you'll always meet new people, but you must understand that not everyone is a friend, not everyone is an enemy and not everyone has come to stay. The reason we fall out with people is because we do not understand their roles in our lives per season. God is in Heaven and works through men on Earth. Whenever God has a need to be met on earth, He doesn't leave His throne, He directs men to meet such needs.

 

Having the consciousness that the people you meet in life everyday have a specific roles to play and identifying who they are and their roles will always keep you above emotional breakdown when they leave you and also help you not to take offense when their assignment is over with you. Many tend to get offended when they are rejected, disappointed, and even fall out with once-upon-a-time good fellow.

From my little experience with people and my desire to be at peace with all men as commanded by God in Romans 12:18, I learnt from the Holy Spirit who is my senior Partner and the One who inspires me greatly, what I'm about to share with you.

 

DESTINY MOLDERS

1 Kings 19:19-20 - So Elijah went from there and found Elisha son of Shaphat. He was plowing with twelve yoke of oxen, and he himself was driving the twelfth pair. Elijah went up to him and threw his cloak around him. Elisha then left his oxen and ran after Elijah. "Let me kiss my father and mother goodbye," he said, "and then I will come with you." "Go back," Elijah replied. "What have I done to you?"
Some people are meant to help mold you into the man or woman God wants you to be. When they're done and their assignment completed with you, God moves you to the place He wants to use you. Don't try to stay with them longer than the time God planned for you, you'll no longer agree to anything and the longer you stay after their assignment is over with you, the more chaotic it gets with them, hard as you try. Whatever happens, however you are separated from them, never bear grudges against anyone.....they have simply acted the way God wanted them to. Just move on to the next level.

 

ONE ROLE AGENT

Genesis 24:40 - “He replied, ‘The Lord, before whom I have walked faithfully, will send his angel with you and make your journey a success, so that you can get a wife for my son from my own clan and from my father’s family.

Some have a specific role to play in your life and as soon as that role is played, God redirects them elsewhere so you can move on to the next level in life. Their role could be to link you with a business associate, lifetime partner, family member, friend, etc. They are just there to carry out one assignment. Once that specific assignment is met, trying to make them stay with you when God doesn't want them around you could be detrimental to your life's assignment. Let them go because trying to keep them around will make them a liability since they're no longer relevant to your mission.

GLORY SEEKERS

 1 John 2:19 - They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us: but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.

Some people are meant to start with you and half way into the journey, leave you, because they do not belong with you. These set of people usually come disguised and uneasily identified; they may appear like lifetime agents but they're not . They can easily turn your heart away from God while you unconsciously start serving them. Their initial appearance in your life leaves you with the best feeling of "yes! I gat it"....or, "I can work with this person" or "They have come to help"..... don't be too quick to judge or credit anyone until after a while. This group of people will start off well with you until you start doing well, then envy, jealousy, bitterness, resentment becomes the only thing you get from them, especially when you do not give them the glory they seek or the credit they think they deserve. This are the toughest kind of people to deal with and usually, the best way to deal with them is to stay miles above them in knowledge and expect certain reaction from them before the time. Give it your best to stay as calm as possible and as silent as possible. Their character will keep them away from you at some point. They cannot hide their identity for too long. If you're unable to identify these people on time, you'll find yourself serving them instead of keeping your focus on God who raises one up and pulls another down. Most of them will voluntarily leave you, but you do not have to worry or chase after them, why? If they belonged with you, they wouldn't leave you. Trying to keep them or chase after them is like going to pick up a bottle of poison and drinking it, expecting not to die.

LIFETIME AGENTS

Ruth 1:16 - But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.

Some are meant to start a journey with you or even join you half way into the journey, no matter how tough it gets, they will stay with your till the very end, because they are meant for you and are divinely sent by God to stay with you through thick and thin. Their zeal will easily expose what category of people they belong to. Unlike the one role agents, they have many roles to play in your life; these category of people are for keeps, you need not pursue them or go out of your way to please them to be with you. They even chase after you most times and are not easily offended, if they get offended they iron it out with you and continue as though nothing happened. They'll fight behind your back for you and stand up for you without you knowing. No matter what, they will walk the walk with you because they see your vision and trust in your God to bring the vision to fulfillment.

In conclusion, everyone you meet as you journey in life has a role to play in your life, you must however know when its time to let go and move on to the next level. Not everyone you know is designed by God to help you fulfill your destiny, some are spectators and cheerers, some are builders and molders, some are pillars. Identifying them from the on-set will help you stay at peace with everyone and keep your sanity.  

 

Romans 12:18 - If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.